/Is it important for a child to do housework?
money

Is it important for a child to do housework?

At some point, you want your children to help in the household. Why should parents do all the work? Usually this desire comes when your children could be a real help to you. This article is about why this is the wrong time.

I am at this very point. Our children are now at an age where they can get on well. Steffi starts again professionally – there would be some support and four helping hands very handy. Unfortunately, this usually doesn’t work.

Therefore, this article is an example of how you better not do it. It’s about when you can (and should) involve your children in the household. We look at why this is so important and where the line lies between housework and rewarding additional tasks.
Why children should help in the household

So that you have more time for you? So you can go to the sport or finally watch the last season of Game of Thrones without falling asleep at half of it?

These would all be quite selfish reasons and we fathers don’t look like that. There are also really better reasons:
Teamwork

Children cannot learn early enough to be part of something bigger than themselves. tasks in the household, to cooperate on something. Without teamwork, nothing works today. Helping in the home is a great opportunity to experience this mindset early.
Responsibility

To be assigned tasks and to be “responsible” for them slowly and gently introduces children to this feeling. In this way, they learn to take responsibility almost playfully and can deal with it much better later on.
Confidence

Do you know the good feeling of having done something? This is exactly what your children will get when you have completed a household job. They see what they can do on their own, how it helps others and contributes to the big picture. Hardly anything gives them more self-confidence and confidence in their own abilities.

What can (should) children help in the household?
What can (should) children help in the household?

Category: Phase 2 (Your child is 3-6 years old), Phase 3 (Your child is 6-10 years old)

Share
Tweet
Share

E‑mail

At some point, you want your children to help in the household. Why should parents do all the work? Usually this desire comes when your children could be a real help to you. This article is about why this is the wrong time.

I am at this very point. Our children are now at an age where they can get on well. Steffi starts again professionally – there would be some support and four helping hands very handy. Unfortunately, this usually doesn’t work.

Therefore, this article is an example of how you better not do it. It’s about when you can (and should) involve your children in the household. We look at why this is so important and where the line lies between housework and rewarding additional tasks.
Why children should help in the household

So that you have more time for you? So you can go to the sport or finally watch the last season of Game of Thrones without falling asleep at half of it?

These would all be quite selfish reasons and we fathers don’t look like that. There are also really better reasons:
Teamwork

Children cannot learn early enough to be part of something bigger than themselves. tasks in the household, to cooperate on something. Without teamwork, nothing works today. Helping in the home is a great opportunity to experience this mindset early.
Responsibility

To be assigned tasks and to be “responsible” for them slowly and gently introduces children to this feeling. In this way, they learn to take responsibility almost playfully and can deal with it much better later on.
Confidence

Do you know the good feeling of having done something? This is exactly what your children will get when you have completed a household job. They see what they can do on their own, how it helps others and contributes to the big picture. Hardly anything gives them more self-confidence and confidence in their own abilities.
What tasks can children take on in the household?

OK, we have clarified that it is positive for everyone involved for children to tackle in the home. But what can they do?

All.

And at some point.

I now save you the usual lists of possible tasks sorted by childhood. I link you here 2 articles:

What tasks children can perform at what age in the household

What tasks your children can do in the household, depending on their age

Instead, I want to give you an idea for the approach by which you can choose tasks together.
What are the budgetary tasks?

It’s like so many things. To know how to approach things, you need an overview. I am a friend of lists. Therefore, make a list of all the things that are available daily, weekly, monthly or perhaps even annually in the household.

The nice thing about such lists is that it makes it clear who cares about all these things today. “Oh cleaning up rooms is once a week on Dad’s list? If I maybe clean up a little bit every day, it doesn’t have to be on the list anymore.”

Such conversations can come out of gathering the tasks to a list (maybe I just dream a little bit – please don’t wake me up…).
Who likes to do what tasks?

Do household tasks always have to be something that you want to avoid as much as possible? Maybe you can turn the distribution of tasks into something positive?

For my part, I like to mow lawns. Running these 60 minutes behind the lawnmower is like meditation for me. The thoughts are free and I come up with the most interesting ideas (did you know that the idea for this blog came about while mowing the lawn?).

Find out as a family who likes to take on which tasks because they are fun for them. Of course, if no one in the budget does anything so far, the voluntary declarations will be sparse. Because nobody knows what he might enjoy. In this case, you can have the tasks roub for a few weeks: So everyone takes on a task once and can then report which task likes to do.

Who does which tasks particularly well?

Another dimension that is often overlooked is the ability.

Which of you can do something particularly well? Wouldn’t it make more sense for everything that the one of you takes on a task that does it best?

On the one hand, it will be much easier and faster for him to get away with it. On the other hand, the chance is to do something you like better. See above.
Should children get money for their help in the household?

And so we are on the subject of which many parents disagree. I would like to anticipate one thing:

There is no right or wrong view here – only yours or yours.

Let this discussion be shortened a little and not go into the different ways in which it could be done. Let’s talk about how I’m going to do it.

Our children receive their pocket money every month. 12 € is a healthy remedy, especially with the background that one or the other extra wish slips with it by the way.

They don’t have to do anything about pocket money.

But they also don’t get any money for services rendered. There is no extra money for good grades or testimonials and also not for help at the table cover, dishwasher or tidying up rooms.

As it is always said in employment contracts so beautifully German: “is compensated with it”.

Helping in the household serves the common good of the family and should therefore be a matter of course as part of the family.

With the children, their desires for purchases also grow. It is the electronic desires that cost more money than the pocket money with the most sophisticated savings plan ever would give. That is why we are looking for ways to provide additional income for children.

I have to pull myself together a lot in order not to water down the border to the ‘common good’.

That’s why I made a small checklist of the tasks for which the children can get extra money:

Tasks that are clearly outside the family sphere of general interest
Tasks I really like to get rid of
Tasks where children’s help adds value

And now??

I’m quite honest. I should have read and heeded this article 5-6 years ago. For to introduce all this with children who have just entered the front yard of puberty and whose household contribution has been limited to “throwing yoghurt cups next to the garbage can” is hard.

But I’m more interested in your opinion. How do you see this with the tasks in the household and how do you regulate all this?